Emotionally intense moments, practices, what I do in emotionally intense moments
Welcome to another one of our precious moments together!
Remember to light a candle, make a cup of tea, do what you need to do to make your space cozy for you!
Today our topic is about emotionally intense moments, the knowing that after those always comes peace. In the moments where emotions feel tight, where it feels like stress and anxiety is on the bottom line, where my chest feels tight and energetically closed. In these moments what is it that I do, how I approach them, what I think and what I know.
Have you had a moment where you felt like you are faced paced and everything around you is rushing, going fast? A moment where you feel like you must reach, grab and push? A moment where anxiety, stress, maybe even unworthiness seems to be running on the base line?
Well today that is exactly what I am going to talk about, including my experiences, thoughts and what I do in those moments.
My experience with emotionally intense moments
First, I want to acknowledge that these moments happen, I do not push them aside, I do not bypass them. I experience them, process them, learn and let them go.
I have been experiencing them for several years. A couple of years ago I didn’t know how to navigate these moments best and I definitely did reach, grab, stress for the things that could hopefully bring me out of them.
I guess from only reading its already visible that that is not the best-case scenario, right?
How do I view them now? Now I can say they feel easier, after gaining tools from my mentors, after starting the journey of healing.
What I use is different kinds of practices, depending on where I am, how I feel, and what feels best for me in that moment:
- First, realizing and acknowledging that I am in that moment
- Then my first go to practice is deep breathing
- Broadening my view, by looking around from side to side, up and down.
- Observing nature, slowing down to the pace of nature
- I love journaling in these moments so I can look back when I feel calmer
- Meeting myself in the mirror with compassion and acceptance
- Listening to music that is calming to my heart
- When I am starting to become calmer, I observe this moment from a little distance, asking questions, understanding what, why it happened.
- Drinking water, mindfully experiencing how it fills me
- If needed, I get into the rage, tears, feel it all.
- I choose the best practice for exactly that moment
These are not all the practices I use, but this is a good start.
I choose them depending on how I feel, where I am, what is the reason I feel that way.
What I find so important is to keep the knowing in myself that after this moment there will come relaxation and peace. So, I choose to look at this moment as a learning experience.
After this moment of uncertainty there will come calmness, deep knowing of your worth, of who you are. So, take a deep breath, you can hold it all, be compassionate with yourself as you journey through these contractions of healing. They are wonderful teachers!
Practices I use
In this section I wanted to dive in further into some of the practices mentioned above.
1. Starting with the first one – realizing and acknowledging that I am in this moment. It is important to notice and recognize the signs.
For me they are:
- Tightness in my chest
- Chest feels energetically closed
- Thoughts and feelings of unworthiness
- Anxiety more intense
- Feels like the outside world is moving faster, like there is rush all around
- Feels like the inner world is crumbling a bit
- Like anxiety and stress is on the base line
Recognizing that I am feeling this way, noticing the signs helps me step out of the feeling itself and view it a little bit more from the side. Then that gives more space for clear thinking.
2. My go to practice that I can do anywhere and everywhere – deep breathing, breathwork.
Why I love this so much is because the air enters right in the tight spot in my chest.
I take a deep breath in, hold it for a couple of seconds, and let it go. Doing it as we speak, I love it 😉
3. Broadening my view, by looking around from side to side and up and down.
This helps with getting myself out of the tunnel vision. Helps to start seeing more, seeing that there is world around me, that it’s okay.
4. Observing nature, slowing down to the pace of nature.
We spoke about this in my previous post, you can read more about it here .
As I mentioned in the previous post about slowing down to the pace of nature, nature does have a slower pace, than what we are used to when running our daily errands, when thinking about so much we must do.
Stepping into nature (even a tree close to you in city center will do, when you walk/drive to your daily errands), noticing nature, taking a deep breath and coming back to the pace of nature. If this calls to you the most, or you just want to know more, then here you can read more in my previous post about Healing with nature .
5. Journaling
While being in these emotions I like to journal, writing, describing what I feel, what is on my mind. This can be read later to see it from a different perspective. And maybe these emotions, journaling in this moment will help to see what is in need of some work, of healing.
6. Meeting myself in the mirror with compassion and self – acceptance.
I have many mirrors around the house, so I always see me, connect with me. Spending time looking at myself in the mirror, also in these moments of emotional turbulence, helps me to see myself, show myself love and care while feeling like I feel. I think it is important to show yourself love through any emotion. But we will touch on this topic of self-love in other posts in the future.
Meeting myself in the mirror helps me show more love to myself in these moments. Helps me recognize that even in these moments I am myself, I am worthy, I am capable.
7. Listening to music that is calming for my heart.
This is lovely practice, especially for sensory overstimulation (which we will talk more about in the future). So, if I feel like calming meditation music is what I need, I do so, usually including breathwork.
This practice helps me to tap into my center more, to the stillness, the quiet.
8. When I am starting to become calmer, I observe this moment from a little distance, asking questions, understanding what, why it happened.
This is a wonderful thing to do once I feel more calm and more peaceful. I like to look at what happened, ask myself questions (not being afraid of the harder questions), to understand better, both the moment and myself.
9. Drinking water, mindfully experiencing how it fills me.
Oh, water is a life force. It can be mindfully experienced, with intention. Helps to stay hydrated, I like to feel how it enters my body and fuels me with pure, cleansing energy.
10. If needed, I get into the rage, tears, feel it all.
This is another important thing to do. I feel my emotions and allow them to come. In a space where I feel safe, I allow my emotions to be seen, experienced, processed, so they can be released better.
11. I choose the best practice for exactly that moment
I ask myself what is it that I need in this moment the most? What would feel best for me? and do the practice that comes up for me. This helps me listen to my body more, to take care of my needs, to understand myself better. Build self-trust.
Now that we have looked at all of these practices, I want to ask you is there one that resonates with you the most? Is there one that you would like to try?
If so, I hope you will enjoy it and it will become a great practice for you.
Deep breath in… and out.
These moments happen, but I have found that it matters how we handle them, how we look at them, how we experience them. I feel that processing my emotions in the proper ways is extremely important and showing love and compassion to myself while going through the contractions of healing.
Till next time!
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