Celebrating a woman only when she looses weight sends a message she is somehow less worthy when having more of it. My journey of self-love.

Hello, my dear! 🙂

How are you today? I hope you are having a good day so far.

Will you take a deep breath with me ?

Inhale….. and slowly exhale.

Good job:)

Now, as todays topic I chose something I have endured in my life as well. I have encountered, pushed through and learned to love myself anyway.

Todays topic is women and their weight. Now some might think that why am I even touching on this topic, nothing is wrong with that. Or maybe I am just looking too deep into it. But bear with me. Any woman who I have encountered has endured unnecessary comments about her body and her weight.

Are you one of them ?

Again. This is NOT a post to drive you towards hating the world, BUT towards loving yourself.

Why does it hurt? How I have felt it on my skin.

When I had more weight, I looked different, I was different.

When it was visible that I had lost weight I felt like I was finally being noticed and celebrated for it.

Oh you have lost weight? You look so good.

Oh you have lost weight, good job!

Oh you have lost weight! Help me too, I want to lose weight as well.

Let me clear up some misunderstandings already. Yes, it is okay to give a compliment, yes, it is wonderful to admire her beauty. NO, it is not okay to focus on it as if finally and now she is worthy. She was worthy even before.

Yes, it is okay to want to feel better in your skin, but I had to consider where this tight focus on loosing weight came from? Was it an idea from my soul and inner knowing or hope for being liked , now finally will I be good enough?

In the recent months I have lost weight very noticeably. You can tell that I have changed. So when that started to be visible I felt like I was celebrated for it as if I wasn’t as worthy before. As if now I am beautiful and now I am visible.

And it hurts. The feeling hurts.

Wasn’t I worthy and beautiful enough? Am I worthy now that I am like others want to see?

When we celebrate a woman only when she loses weight , for becoming skinny, it sends a message that she is not as worthy when having more of it.

My story, what did I do

When I felt bad in being how I am, when I felt all of those fears coming up and not enough, like I am not beautiful, not worthy, I knew there must be a different way.

Changing my body because of hate towards it was not an option for me and I felt wrong when doing so .

What did I do then?

I did not focus on it. I mean on loosing weight or changing my body. Instead I focused on loving myself fully as I am. With love for myself came healthier habits, new mentors, new messages, new ways of being. One by one, day by day it started changing and I became different with it. But I chose to start with self-love, not move out of fear or hate.

When I implemented workouts and healthier meals, it was because of my desire to move differently, be more capable and feel healthier. To feel better and healthier overall. To feed my body with better food, move my body so I can be healthier.

And coming into self-love against all that was around, all the fears, worries, self doubt was a courageous thing to do. So I chose that 🙂

Remember, I am hear to spread light and spread a message from my journey and healing. I hope this resonated you .

With this message I am only trying to bring ourselves closer to love, not hate. It’s okay to want to be healthier, love what you see, but in this message I am saying that I chose self love first, not driving my decisions out of fear, hate, but of the desire to love and be healthier.

Removing other peoples opinions and wishes over my body was courageous and felt incredibly good 😀

Hope you will have a blessed day!

Spread light ❤️